Why men have affairs?
Chat about a loaded issue that no one wants to speak about, that’s it. Funny thing, affairs have been going on from old ages. Affairs can be loaded with problems, cause sadness, and other harms. Plus you have to wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and sincerety thing, money, age dissimilarity, religious education, guilt, and on and on. I expect there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this article I will classify an affair as a long term, maybe decades long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, discreet wives dating.
Why do people have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are man seeking woman for affair. I suppose generally though it is only the human nature, the need for love, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and appreciated. Here are a several explanations I have run across.
In nature we as humans are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasing and exciting, and sex makes us escape the real world for a small period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Somebody are able to turn the desire on and off, some are good at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and old, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the exhilaration of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another being, for some it is the wish to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they prevail over the taboos people has erected against extra-marital affairs. For lots of people the yearnings will overcome their doubts and make them risk the anger of not only their family, but the public also. So why, what is the method?
Sex Addicts, maybe some of us are. Sex is terribly good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically driven sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not wound your spouse or anyone else? You will need to lessen the threat you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everybody, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the biggest group, enormous truly. There are many couples whose marriage is over, except they are happy in the manner they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Then there are the children to look after. Your finances are so entangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be jointly besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that stop them completing the sex operation, at least not with their spouse. An extra-marital affair from time to time solves the trouble while keeping the marriage undamaged.
Avoidance, sorrowfully this is a ordinary groung I fear. One or the other, as a rule the gentleman is sexually neglecting his woman for a tones of reasons. As a man I truly am thankful to you guys neglecting your wives and making them accessible to us males of romance, making them “lonely wives” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but evil.
Something is just misplaced in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, maybe it is a shortage of love, maybe compassion is not here, maybe it is the closeness, could be neglect. Could be we have just grown apart, our ordinary interests diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is conflicting of what you want. Maybe I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that feeling that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The number one reason people give is, they search for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run off, for economic gain, for payback and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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